One of our couple friends is having a baby soon!! They have just been married a year and their sweet baby girl is due in a month or so.
The father has shared that its not real to him yet. I loved his honesty and the fact that he is open enough to call it as it...that he feels not as attached as his wife does at this point. I can remember E feeling that way as well.
Remember that feeling though when the baby finally arrived? Someone told me this and I thought it was so fitting...that the baby comes with love...you just get the RUSH of love for yoru child when it is born. I remember with the girl it was as if I knew her my whole life. This surge of love and desire and protection ran though my mind. That she was mine and this was our baby...our responsiblity. And I loved her immediately and fiercely
However, I also remember being oddly detached during the whole delivery and immediately after though... I wonder if that is true of many women. I know the birth experience is very personal to each mother. While I remember that passion for the sweet girl I do recall being sort of seperated from what was happening around me. Maybe it was the drugs.
One of my favorite stories of birth is from a friend who after having her baby in early January went for her six week check up. Upon being examined and looking at her blood work her doctor said, "Why didnt you wait for the recommended six weeks after giving birth to resume sexual activity?" She said she blinked and said, "Well...umm...wait...how could you possibly know that?" And he said..."Well because you are pregnant again!"
Her boys had the same first Christmas!! Can you imagine!!!
So ladies...weigh in...tell your stories. Sorry guys...youll have to sit this one out
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Sit this one out ~ Never! Besides, I get get letters addressed to Miss/Ms. Taylor Ward all the time, inviting me to join girl's book clubs and so on. So since I have an androgenous name I'm putting my 2 cents in.
As a dad to be, there was definitely a detachment and different feeling for a lot of reasons, first the spouse is going through something which he can't be appreciate and the relationship is changing. 'Whadda ya mean I'll have to share your affections!!!' [Yes, Guys tend to be shallow and selfish every now and then.]
Then when the bundle of joy appears it is a triple whammy: this is MY child! I now have someone else to love with all I have, but also a huge responsibility, what about life insurance, what about child proofing the home, what about college funding, etc. Eeek! For guys ~ it is hard enough to use the word "commitment" in a sentence which doesn't also include the "run from" or "avoid" and suddenly here before you is a beautiful, but totally dependent other (even more dependent than the man himself!) who the Guy has responsibilities for and obligations to. It's a wee bit scary. That said, it is also among the lord's greatest blessings and I wouldn't trade it for anything.
Taylor (Mr. not Ms.)
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