One thing that K keeps preaching to me (in the best way) is the concept of realizing that the only thing that will satisfy is my relationship with Christ. That i will in no way be full with anything else and to try to do it another way will only leave me frustrated and angry.
Im trying to apply this to my marriage. Its hard.
E has been known to say to me many a time when I am frustrated and angry (at him usually), "Listen, I am not the problem and I am certainly not the solution!" Of course at times this is a great way to dodge any real ownership of issues that might pertain to him, but often times he is right...Im looking to him to satisfy my every need and wish and desire when that is what Christ can and will do for me. Same thing applys to the whole, "If I could just have this" issue that I struggle with too...
Im realizing that what K has said is such a true statement AND (and here is the coolest part) when you actually try to apply this, it takes the heat off enormously...its like..."oh..I dont have to be mad at you because this is not about you!!!"
HMmmmmmmmmmm...its interesting. AND..a titch freeing...
Another thing that K has said that Im rolling around is the concept that if you dont forgive someone for something (even if that takes time) that you relinquish power to them. That you allow them to have an effect in your life that is negative and that can own you. I have to do more investigating about that one and unpack it a bit.
Thoughts, anyone?
2 comments:
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Thanks for changing 'T' to 'K' and 'he' to 'she.' Heh, heh, heh. No one will know I am the bright one full of insights.
Anywho, I agree with K, er, I mean, me.
On the last point. By not forgiving someone, one remains controlled by, fixated on, or at least revisiting, the anger or the wrong done. It continues to be a focus of how to get back at him/her/them or make him/her/them pay, etc. True forgiveness frees you from that. [It's not easy, in part, because there is a pleasure in day dreaming about getting back or getting even with him/her/them.
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Question, how do you forgive someone if you don't know why they hurt you the way they did? You ask God to forgive them for treating you like crap? Been there done that, the hurt is still there, nonetheless. It's our human nature to be hurt and process it, anyway, The Lord was the one who created us unique, I think He uses it for our own growth and the other person's growth - who treated you like crap.
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